Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs was written by Dr. Emerson. The book was a national bestseller. In his book, Eggerichs argues that men value respect more highly than love. “No husband feels affection toward a wife who appears to have contempt for who he is as a human being. The key to creating fond feelings of love in a husband toward his wife is through showing him unconditional respect”.
Based on over three decades of counseling, as well as scientific and biblical research, Dr. Emerson Eggerichs and his wife, have already taken the Love message across the world and are changing the way couples talk to, think about, and treat each other.
What do you want for your marriage? Want some peace? Want to feel close? Want to feel valued? Want to experience marriage the way God intended? Then why not try some Love and Respect.
Using Dr. Eggerich’s breakthrough techniques, couples nationwide are achieving a brand-new level of intimacy and learning how to: – stop the Crazy Cycle of conflict – initiate the Energizing Cycle of change – enjoy the Rewarded Cycle of new passion. And if you’ll take this biblically based counsel to heart, your marriage could be next!
Love and Respect Book PDF Summary
The Love She Most Desires; The Respect He Desperately Needs:
- “Wives are made to love, want to love, and expect love. Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect”.
- “When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband”.
- “Often, we focus on our own needs and simply overlook the needs of the other person”.
- “Husbands are made to be respected, want respect, and expect respect”.
- “As I wrestled with the problem, I finally saw a connection: without love from him, she reacts without respect; without respect from her, he reacts without love”.
- “When a husband feels disrespected, it is especially hard to love his wife. When a wife feels unloved, it is especially hard to respect her husband”.
- “When a husband feels disrespected, he has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel unloving to his wife. (Perhaps the command to love was given to him precisely for this reason!) When a wife feels unloved, she has a natural tendency to react in ways that feel disrespectful to her husband. (Perhaps the command to respect was given to her precisely for this reason!)”
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Excited yet burdened about male and female relationships, EMERSON EGGERICHS launched the Love and Respect Conferences in August 1999 Emerson was the senior pastor or East Lansing’s thriving Trinity Church before devoting himself full-time to building healthy marriages.
Dr. Eggerichs has a M.A. in communications from Wheaton College, a Master’s of Divinity from Dubuque Seminary, and a Ph.D. in child and family ecology from Michigan State University.
He and his wife, Sarah, live in Grand Rapids, Michigan, and have three adult children. He is the president of Love and Respect Ministries.
Published:2004
Author: Emerson Eggerichs
Love and Respect Crazy Cycle
This destructive pattern in marriage occurs when a wife feels unloved and reacts with disrespect, while a husband feels disrespected and reacts unlovingly. This cycle can continue indefinitely, causing harm to the relationship.
To stop this cycle, one spouse must take the initiative to meet the other’s primary need, regardless of how they feel. For wives, this means showing respect even when feeling unloved. For husbands, it means showing love even when feeling disrespected. Men and women have different primary emotional needs in a relationship:
- Women need love above all else
- Men need respect above all else
- Recognizing and meeting these different needs is crucial for breaking the Crazy Cycle and fostering a healthy marriage.
Many wives fear that showing respect will make them a doormat, while husbands often feel frustrated when they don’t understand their wives’ needs. These fears can hinder the application of love and respect principles.
Overcoming fears through understanding is the best approach. For wives: Respect doesn’t mean subservience; it means valuing your husband’s strengths and contributions. For husbands: Loving your wife means actively listening and empathizing, not just trying to fix her problems.
